WHY DO WE THINK BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP EQUATES TO STABILITY?

Many a times, we come across statements like, “Oh you’re dating? Life toh set hi hai na fir!” I’d like to raise a question to that.

Why do we predominantly assume that the person’s life is on the right track if he/she is in a relationship? It is safe to say, that a relationship (for that matter, any relationship) is a PART of our lives. One may share each and every excrutiating detail about life to his partner, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that the person may then automatically, live a pain-free or “sane” life.

As aforementioned, a relationship we are in, is a part of our life and NOT our entire life. One can be in a mature, loving and healthy relationship and not be okay about other things in life, at the same time. We just need to normalize the fact, that an unstable person CAN be in a relationship.

Who isn’t mentally unstable nowadays? The times are bad, and worse for committed people when we assume their life is perfectly fine, simply because they’re in a relationship. Struggles like- heartbreak, anxiety, stressful routine, indecisiveness, are instilled in each and every one of us. Some of us cope with them a little better than others.

But my question to you is, is it rational of us to think, that getting into a relationship might change our mental health in a split second?

I would also like to address the fact that some individuals think that there is a problem with THEM or their relationship when their partner is unstable. If you’re one of them, you need to understand that your cherished person, has a life outside the relationship, and some parts of their life can lead to disturbance internally. And it is completely okay (if you ask me) if your partner balances out his/her complications in a coherent manner.

In conclusion, I hope everyone reading this gets the drift of what my point here was, and also normalizes unsound people being in a sound relationship!