ARE YOU BEING SARCASTIC OR INSENSITIVE?

Imagine, you just had a rough fight with your best friend over something sensitive and you both bump into each other at the same party that weekend. You still haven’t resolved the fight and are not on talking terms with each other, but there are way too many mutual friends at the party and you can’t avoid them. You and your friend are standing with the same group of people and suddenly your friend goes, “It’s funny what happened yesterday!” and goes about saying something you wouldn’t imagine. He/She starts to talk about the root of the fight you had. She blurts out something superlatively offensive. Oh but wait, everyone’s laughing!

Calling your friends out on their insecurities is not fun guys. Even if you think, it is world class humor, trust me it doesn’t hurt less, than being stabbed in the back. Sardonic humor might be your way of relating to the world, but let me tell you, the world doesn’t work that way. People get hurt, they might even lose their self-esteem. It might be about something, as simple as a haircut or as heavy as anxiety.

Unless, its you who is going through the conflict, you should never oust another’s way of coping with it or even worse, not coping with it. The person may laugh it off with you, but they surely won’t let it go. And I am of the belief, that it is always the person who is on the targeted side of the conversation, that remembers every little detail of every little syllable that was pronounced.

Be a little empathetic, imagine yourself being in that situation and make it a point, not to call your friends out on any thing which might be even remotely sensitive to them. Not even as a joke. You never really know how it might affect them and how much it might take a toll on their being.

And after reading this, if you felt that you might have done that before, please go and apologize to said person. You might just make their day, or for that matter make yours!